Public Speaking and Panic
Attacks
By Joe Barry
It is often observed that many people’s top ranking fear is
not death but having to speak in public. The joke is that
these people would rather be lying in the casket at the
funeral than giving the eulogy. Public speaking for people
who suffer from panic attacks or general anxiety often
becomes a major source of worry weeks or even months before
the speaking event is to occur.
These speaking engagements do not necessarily have to be
the traditional "on a podium" events but can be as simple
as an office meeting where the individual is expected to
express an opinion or give verbal feedback. The fear of
public speaking and panic attacks in this case centers on
having an attack while speaking. The individual fears being
incapacitated by the anxiety and hence unable to complete
what he or she is saying. The person imagines fleeing the
spotlight and having to make all kinds of excuses later for
their undignified departure out the office window….
This differs slightly from the majority of people who fear
public speaking because their fear tends to revolve around
going blank while speaking or feeling uncomfortable under
the spotlight of their peers. The jitters or nerves of
speaking in public are of course a problem for this group
as well, but they are unfamiliar with that debilitating
threat which is the panic attack, as they most likely have
not experienced one before.
So how should a person with an anxiety issue tackle
public speaking?
Stage one is accepting that all these bizarre and quite
frankly unnerving sensations are not going to go away
overnight. In fact, you are not even going to concern
yourself with getting rid of them for your next talk. When
they arrive during a speech/meeting, you are going to
approach them in a new manner. What we need to do is build
your confidence back to where it used to be before any of
these sensations ever occurred. This time you will approach
it in a unique, empowering manner, allowing you to feel
your confidence again. It is said that most of the top
speakers are riddled with anxiety before speaking, but they
somehow use this nervousness to enhance their speech. I am
going to show you exactly how to do this, although I know
that right now if you suffer from public speaking and panic
attacks you may find it difficult to believe you can ever
overcome it.
My first point is this and it is important. The average
healthy person can experience an extreme array of anxiety
and very uncomfortable sensations while giving a speech and
is in no danger of ever losing control, or even appearing
slightly anxious to the audience. No matter how tough it
gets, you will always finish your piece, even if at the
outset it feels very uncomfortable to go on. You will not
become incapacitated in any way.
The real breakthrough for if you suffer from public
speaking and panic attacks happens when you fully believe
that you are not in danger and that the sensations will
pass.
"I realize you (the anxiety) hold no threat over me.”
What keeps a panic attack coming again and again is the
fear of the fear—the fear that the next one will really
knock your socks off and you feel you were lucky to have
made it past the last one unscathed. As they were so
unnerving and scary, it is your confidence that has been
damaged by previous anxiety episodes. Once you fully
understand you are not under any threat, then you can have
a new response to the anxiety as it arises while
speaking.
Defeating public speaking and panic
attacks...
There is always a turning point when a person moves from
general anxiety into a panic attack, and that happens with
public speaking when you think to yourself:
"I won't be able to handle this in front of these
people."
That split second of self-doubt leads to a rush of
adrenaline, and the extreme anxiety arrives in a wave like
format. If, however, when you feel the initial anxiety and
you react with confidence that this is not a threat to you,
you will move out of the anxiety rapidly. Using this new
approach is a powerful ally because it means it is okay to
feel scared and feel the anxiety when speaking–that is
fine; you are going to feel it and move with and through
the sensations in your body and out the other side. Because
he or she is feeling very anxious, often before the talk
has begun, that person may feel they have already let
themselves down. Now, you can relax on that point. It is
perfectly natural to feel the anxiety. Take for example the
worst of the sensations you have ever experienced in this
situation—be it general unease to loss of breath. You will
have an initial automatic reaction that says:
"Danger–I'm going to have an episode of anxiety here and I
really can’t afford that to happen.”
At this point most people react to that idea and confirm it
must be true because of all of the unusual feelings they
are experiencing. This is where your thinking can lead you
down a train of thought that creates a cycle of anxiety
that produces a negative impact on your overall presenting
skills.
So let that initial “oh dear, not now” thought pass by, and
follow it up immediately with the attitude of:
"There you are–I've been wondering when you would arrive.
I’ve been expecting you to show up—by the way, I am not in
the least threatened by any of the strange sensations you
are creating—I am completely safe here.”
The key to controlling your fear of public speaking and
panic attacks is that instead of pushing the emotional
energy and excitement down into your stomach, you are
moving out through it. Your body is in a slightly excited
state, exactly as it should be while giving a speech, so
release that energy in your self-expression. Push it out
through your presentation not down into your stomach. You
push it out by expressing yourself more forcefully. In this
way you turn the anxiety to your advantage by using it to
deliver a speech where you come across more alive,
energetic and in the present moment. When you notice the
anxiety drop as it does when you willingly move into it.
Fire a quick thought off when you get a momentary break (as
I am sure you have between pieces), asking it for “more.”
You want more of its intense feelings as you are interested
in them and are absolutely not threatened by them.
It seems like a lot of things to be thinking about while
talking to a group of people, but it is not really. You’d
be amazed how many different non-related thoughts you can
have while speaking. This approach is about adopting a new
attitude of confidence to what you might have deemed a
serious threat up until now. This tactic will truly help
you with fear of public speaking and panic attacks you have
associated with them.
If your predominant fear of the speaking engagement is
driven by a feeling of being trapped, then I would suggest
factoring in some mental releases that can be prepared
before the event. For example, some meetings/speeches allow
for you to turn the attention back to the room to get
feedback etc. from the group.
If possible, you might want to prepare such opportunities
in your own mind before the engagements. This is not to say
you have to ever use them, but people in this situation
often remark that just having small opportunities where
attention can be diverted for the briefest of moments can
make the task seem less daunting. It my even be something
as simple as having people introduce themselves or opening
the floor to questions. I realize these diversions are not
always possible and depend on the situation, but anything
you can factor in that makes you feel less trapped or under
the spotlight is worth the effort and can help alleviate
fear of public speaking and panic attacks.
Learn more
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Joe Barry is an international panic disorder coach. His
informative site on all issues related to panic and anxiety
attacks can be found here:
http://www.panicportal.com
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